It occurs to me that a lot of what’s wrong with our current culture is that everyone that is alive today was told at some point in their lives, “You can be anything you want to be. All you have to do is try.” Not only is this simply not true, but I believe it’s damaging to the individual and to society.
Not just anybody can be President, for example (though it currently seems that way). You have to have a lot of money . . . I mean A LOT of money. And it’s really hard to get that much money. No amount of hard work alone will get you there. What’s required is a ton of hard work and even more luck. And that luck simply doesn’t come to just everyone. Sorry.
Same goes for fame. I wanted to be a rock star. I worked really, really hard for it, in fact. I have the talent. I have the skills and the determination. What I didn’t have was the right audience member at just the right time. And what I no longer have is youth. So again, no matter how hard I worked or how deserving I might have been, I was never going to be a rock star. It sucks, yeah, but that’s life.
Even worse, though, than telling a really bright or talented person they can be anything they want to be is saying the same to an average person; someone whom you know simply doesn’t have and will never have the skills necessary for success in their desired field. I mean look at the early auditions on American Idol every year. Those are people who CANNOT SING. They’ve never been able to sing; they’ll never be able to sing. But someone (or a lot of someones) told them they could. Either to be nice (or possibly even to be mean) or out of a misplaced desire to encourage, someone gave these people false hope. And they ended up humiliated on national television.
Now how is this damaging to society? It has created an “everyone is equally perfect” mentality. There is a malignant narcissism deteriorating this country that stems from a sense of entitlement to fame and fortune and “everything I want” (Twitter , anyone?). After all, anything less would be “unfair” (and don’t get me started on the concept of “fair” . . . short version; “fair” doesn’t exist). We’ve gotten so focused on how “equal” everyone is supposedly meant to be that we’ve forgotten how different everyone actually is. By definition, very few people in this world are special. Common sense, really. If everyone were special, no one would be.
So if you’re a parent to an average child, don’t tell them they’re special just because you love them so much. Tell them they’re loved, yes; encourage them when they show aptitude for something, yes. But don’t tell a chronic C student they can be a doctor or a lawyer or President if they just try harder. Odds are they can’t. And don’t tell your tone deaf child they can be a rock star just because they really want it.
Now of course, don’t actively discourage them from trying. That lucky break may actually come along. But do encourage them when they try something else they’re obviously better at. And do educate them on how the world really works. If you’re not born wealthy, you’re not likely to become wealthy without a lot of luck. And if you’re not wealthy, all those other big dreams aren’t likely to materialize.
Oh, and one more thing. All of this is okay. You don’t need any of those things in order to be happy. All you need to be happy is to simply decide to be happy. Stop worrying about what you don’t have or what you haven’t accomplished, and start enjoying what you have.
You know . . . I kinda always thought the Nobel Peace Prize was a complete joke . . .
New York’s iconic Empire State Building will light up red and yellow Wednesday in honor of the 60th anniversary of communist China.
Pardon my French, but what the #$%&* is going on in this world?!? Everyone say it with me, “COMMUNISM ISN’T COOL!!” It’s not just a different form of government. It’s not just a difference of opinion. It’s really, really bad. How hard is it to understand that?
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So, Obama’s been in office for a little over eight months. During the campaign, he assured us that diplomacy would be the key to solving all the world’s problems. He even went so far as to say he’d meet with the genocidal leader of Iran without any preconditions, meaning essentially that Iran does not have to give up their nuclear ambitions or plans to “wipe Israel off the map” in order to have a nice sit-down with the President of The United States.
Obama also promised to focus on the war in Afghanistan (The Good War™) while pulling troops out of Iraq (The Bad War™).
So. He’s going to focus on Afghanistan, and obviously he’ll talk to anyone if he’s willing to talk to Ahmadinejad. So why is it that he has met with General Stanley McChrystal only one time in the 70 days since he took command of our forces in Afghanistan? Well, obviously he has more important things to do. Like speaking before the U.N. Or lobbying for the 2016 Olympics to be held in Chicago, against the wishes of 80% of that city’s population. (More info here on what’s basically turning out to be an extravagant vacation to Denmark.)
He’s a busy man. And very important. Lots of just causes to fight for. And besides, winning a war is just . . . so 1945.
So, for the past week or so I’ve been trying to put into words exactly what I think the last 20 years of Political Correctness has wrought in our society; how the focus of the public education system on self esteem (at the expense of real education) has harmed our culture; how the “everyone is equally perfect” mentality has slowly deteriorated this once great nation. And damned if someone else doesn’t come along and put it more succinctly and far more eloquently than I ever could. I give you the great Libertyblog:
The following mindset has gripped a critical mass of Americans:
- I am wonderful.
- Therefore I am entitled to all sorts of good stuff (a nice house, a good salary, cheap consumer goods, top-rate health care, a lengthy retirement, etc.) without working terribly hard for it, or sacrificing, or taking risks.
- But I’m no better than anyone else.
- Therefore everybody is entitled to all that stuff without working terribly hard for it, or sacrificing, or taking risks.
This is, of course, no basis for a stable civilization in the real world.
Why can’t I come up with this kind of material?